Love Dare Days 6, 7, & 8

Day 6: Love is not irritable
The dare was to tell your spouse 3 things that they do that irritates you. Ben and I did this and then talked about ways to try to lessen these irritations. It was interesting to see how you appear in your spouses eyes. We both took the criticism very well and have been working hard to make the needed adjustments!

Day 7: Love believes the best
The dare was to write a list of positive and a negative attributes of your spouse and to tell them how much you love something from the positive list. I feel like I already know all of the things I love and dislike about Ben so making the lists was very easy. The positive list was a lot longer than the negative. Ben only wrote 2 negative things about me so I gave him a list of many more! Then I wrote all of the positive attributes on little pieces of paper and placed them on the kitchen table around a letter that told Ben how much I love him! It was a really good experience. The book went on to talk about two different rooms within your relationship. When you first meet you spend a lot of time in the "positive" room where love is written all over the walls, but eventually you find yourself in the "negative" room. Spending time here can ruin a relationship. The room should only be entered to write love on the walls or to pray for your spouse. No matter how big the bad things are you should always try to focus on the positive. We are all sinners and imperfect humans and we need to love each others imperfect ways; with the help of God obviously.

Day 8: Love is not jealous
The dare today is to burn the negative list from yesterday and to tell each other how proud we are of a recent success they had. We have not burnt our lists yet, but I am excited to do it. We will be left with only the positive lists which will be the guides in our marriage.